It has been said that “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. I used to believe that and now I am not so certain. I am not so certain that pain is inevitable. I am not so naive to believe that we will not go through situations that will cause us some discomfort, I question whether it has to be painful? Is the experience of pain something that we are born with or is it something that we learn from others? I am not referring to physical pain, I am referring to emotional pain. Do we learn how to emote pain or are we born with the ability to express it.